This past week was filled with messages like the one in the video below. Even Obama sent a message out. I know this is a touchy subject with some of my family and maybe even some of my friends, but I’m going to blog about it anyway.
First let me say I don’t believe homosexuality is a choice. And personally, I don’t care if you’re gay or not. It’s just another lifestyle to me and who am I to judge anyway? But being afraid of who you are should never, ever make you feel less important than anyone else.
I try not to make homosexuality an issue because I firmly believe if you make it an issue, it becomes… an issue. Oh sure, I’ve talked about sexuality in general to my kids and homosexuality has come up in conversation a time or two. I answer all their questions and give them generalized opinions and/or facts from all sides, and do so to the best of my ability, just like I do with any other topic. From there, I encourage them to form their own opinion and hope and pray it’s the same as mine. Then we eat or go see a movie or arrive at the Walmart. [Side note: It’s amazing the kinds of conversations we can have with our kids while out driving around town]
It Gets Better: Google Employees
All that being said, it kind of ticks me off that there’s been all this focus on gay teen suicides lately. Someone commits suicide because he or she is gay? How about someone committed suicide because he or she felt depressed… ostracized… different… like a misfit… or an outcast? How about that?
I fail to see the difference between being suicidal because you’re bullied, overweight, disabled, abused, [fill in the blank] or being suicidal because you’re gay. I don’t think the feelings are any less devastating for a person who’s being bullied, than that of a teenager who happens to be gay.
All this focus on gay teen suicide leaves me wondering about that poor kid who’s being bullied at school because he’s [fill in the blank] but is not gay. Is he thinking “Apparently, gays are even more important than I am.”? Some reports indicate that one-third of teenagers who commit suicide are gay. That means that two-thirds of teenagers who commit suicide are not gay. Why the focus on gay teen suicides?
I mean think about for a second… someone felt so bad that they wanted to check-out. It doesn’t get worse than that, right? How about we focus our attention on teen suicides as a whole?